• 1st May
    2012
  • 01

Pro-tip:

shrinkingviolet93:

Guys who are actually nice people don’t generally feel the need to talk about how nice they are and how unfair it is that girls only go for assholes. We don’t. 

If you can’t get a girlfriend, it’s not because you’re too nice.

Speaking from experience, guys who feel the need to whine about how girls don’t want them because they’re too nice are not actually nice. They’re more like whiny, needy, and a little creepy. And they can’t take a hint for crap. 

So, moral of the story? If you’re a nice person, show, don’t tell. And if a girl clearly wants you to leave her alone, saying things like “I bet you only go for jerks, right? I’m just too nice.” IS NOT going to fucking help your case. Just leave her alone.

  • 12th August
    2011
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  • 29th May
    2011
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  • 5th May
    2011
  • 05
I'm sorry but I'm completely weirded out at this point by how often you entertain the "what chance does a normal guy have of dating you" questions. Especially when they're prefaced by paragraphs lauding your work in the sex industry, insinuating that is the reason they'd want to date you and not because of any interest in you as a human being.

It's really just this fantasy guys have of access to women who they get off to on a screen, which is also a manufactured fantasy.

A "normal" guy's chances with you aren't any greater or less than with any other women at your age and level of attractiveness. It feels like the only reason you get asked this is because of that fantasy of accessibility and it just seems so... ew. Just... ew.

Asked by: girl-non-grata

This is the most true, relevant thing somebody has said when it comes to the whole ‘what does a guy have to do to date you’ line of questioning that I get all the time. 

See this people? This right here is truth. 100% truth.

  • 5th May
    2011
  • 05

girl-non-grata replied to your post: I think everyone wants to ask you things… And who wouldnt want to when you are by far the hottest female to hit the porn scene, just a pitty that you not shooting at the moment. It just seems a bit weird wanting to ask a complete stranger something intimate or crazy when you dont even know them besides watching them on your tv screen at home prancing around naked ;-) Anyway… here is a random question for you (I dont have an account on here by I do follow you on twitter) whats the chances of some random normal or semi normal guy depending on how you look at it like myself for instance getting to take you out for dinner and drinks?

It bothers me how often you get this question. It feels so… proprietary. Any “normal” guy who asks this (especially when it’s preface by two paragraphs about your work in the sex industry) is doing so with only one thing in mind.

Yeah, I’ve got a pre-programmed answer at this point. It’s a daily thing.

I mean, the last couple people that dated me didn’t meet me as Ginger, they met me as ‘me’. If the first time somebody sees me I’m either running around half naked on stage or something of that nature, there’s a 99.99999% chance that we will never date.

I mean honestly, Ginger is a happy ball of sunshine at work. Being her is exhausting, so once I flip the switch back to the ‘real’ me, I have no energy left. Unless somebody really does want to just sit around, watch movies, listen to me cry about being in pain and wanting to find a way to make it stop, go to doctors appointments all over the place, and deal with all the quirks I’ve acquired along the way, the last thing they want to do is interact with me outside of my work persona. 

Add in the fact that due to the stalker issue I will never, ever publicly say I’m dating somebody, so there will be no cute ‘couple’ photos going on Facebook, Twitter, or anywhere else, and people suddenly begin to realize it’s not as appealing as it seems in their heads. 

  • 22nd November
    2010
  • 22
I think what that one dude was asking earlier was what do you look for in a guy? Do you like the strong, silent type or the guy that can make you laugh? Does your guy have to be ripped or will you date the Pillsbury Dough Boy if he is smart enough and sweet enough? Does he have to be rich or can he be a working stiff? Does he have to be a he?

Asked by: readerdan

I don’t really have a ‘type’. My level of attraction to people tends to be based on personality and not necessarily physical appearance. People age and looks change….but people that are disrespectful assholes tend to stay that way forever. 

I like people that understand Ginger is a part of me, but not all of me. They have to be ok with the fact that I tend to work a lot, and that when we’re on dates there may be people that approach us because I’m there and they want to meet Ginger. I need somebody that lets me be myself, and doesn’t have some expectation that I’m going to walk around in stripper heels trying to put together an orgy in the dining room. 

I *need* somebody that I can engage in conversation with. Actual conversation, not just ‘what did you do today’ type stuff. Somebody that is open minded and knows that if they say racist/sexist/homophobic/etc. things, I’m going to call them on it and will fight about it if I need to. 

Money is most certainly not one of the big things that decides my level of attraction. Yes, I want somebody that’s not going to try to mooch off me (as that shit won’t work), but if they’re a welder as opposed to a doctor….that’s ok. The trophy wife thing isn’t my style, or I could’ve done that ages ago. 

  • 9th November
    2010
  • 09
What do you look for in a guy? Ever dated/gone home with/had sexual relationship with a guy you first meet while dancing? Ever had exclusive relationship with a girl?

Asked by: Anonymous

What do I look for in a guy? Well, other than being gainfully employed, funny, open minded, non-abusive, easy to talk to, genuinely nice, having some common interests, and being supportive of me….not much.

I don’t want to be the stereotypical girl most people tend to think about when it comes to dancers having boyfriends/girlfriends. You know what I’m talking about, the guys with no job, car, ambition, or common sense. The ones that treat their girls like crap. Fuck that noise. If somebody wants a new Playstation game or a carton of cigarettes, that motherfucker can go buy it himself. I’m not working my ass off (literally) to have a mooch guy sitting at home with his hand  out every night so he can go buy video games or alcohol or cigarettes or whatever else he wants. If they want that, they should probably move back in with their mom. I’d rather be single than deal with that shit. I don’t care how hot somebody is, if they’re an idiot or a user, I’m not interested.

A very, very long time ago I dated somebody that I met through work. I learned that lesson, and not in a good way. 

  • 6th November
    2010
  • 06
Sorry to hear that, it's unfortunate to have to limit yourself because of the issues of others but I certainly understand. Either way you should be having fun on a Friday night, you can be more of a dork and a home body when you're old like me :P :) What sort of person do you go for in a relationship or what qualities are most important? Hope I'm not bugging you too much but I'm bored and on the computer on a Friday night too.

Asked by: Anonymous

You aren’t bugging me. 

When I’m attracted to a person and want to be in a relationship with them, I want them to understand that I am *not* the person they see on stage or anywhere else. When I’m at home or in ‘real life’ I’m as normal and boring as can be, so if they are interested in me so that they can say that their girlfriend is a model/feature dancer/stripper/porn chick….they’re going to be let down rather quickly.

People that encourage me to grow, learn, become a better person, and that help me along the way automatically move higher on the list than just another pretty face. Looks fade, but dickish assholes never change. Any kind of abuse, from verbal all the way on down is a no-go for me, and trying to treat me like I’m a piece of property or a prize to be won won’t end well. If they go out of their way to show how ‘normal/nice’ they are and state that they ‘don’t judge me’ but tell me how nobody would want to put up with a ‘girl like me’ during any kind of disagreement…we’re dead in the water. 

Oh! Sociopaths, stalkers, and people that create fake jobs/lives/friends/enemies in an attempt to impress me or con me…they can take that shit somewhere else.